"Love is the Absence of Judgment - Dalai Lama"
Judgement naturally occurs when you encounter some object or situation that did not meet or exceed your expectations.
This is a natural reaction that allows us to compare things when making any decision.
So let's assume we're talking about people only from this point on.
Absence of judgement means one of two things
- True Natural Love - The person has met or exceeded your expectations, and you have nothing to complain about. This is perfect. I Love them.
- Forced Convinced Love - I know that i'm not supposed to judge people i love, so therefore i will not pass judgement on this person, even though i really do have fault, but i am choosing not to openly judge. I am subjecting myself to this torture for this person. I Love them.
Therefore, the measure of true love comes from whether or not your expectations will change over time.
