My Bread in a bag for kids

https://joyfulhomemaking.com/2016/12/kid-friendly-bread-bag-mini-loaves.html

https://www.delish.com/cooking/recipe-ideas/recipes/a54346/bread-in-a-bag-recipe/

My Pasta

• Fill pot with enough water to cover pasta
• Tablespoon of salt
• bring water to rolling boil
• Angel pasta - 4 mins
• Stir to prevent sticking
• pour into colander, drain
• salt, pepper, olive oil, mix

I hate it when my wife - Makes me feel bad about my family

Our families do things differently.
But my wife makes it a point to harp on any minor issue that comes up with my family.
I do not do this to her. Her defense is that her family does not ask for the same things, or treat me the same way, but this is because i do not have a close relationship with her family. None of her family members would start a conversation with me.
My family on the other hand has tried to include my wife, and speak to her, but she sees this as annoying, and would rather just be left alone.

If any of them does something, and she does not approve, she makes all of these comments about them that i have to just sit and endure. If i make any motion to say anything in their defense, it turns into a large fight, with her basically giving the ultimatum to choose between her or them, and decide who has priority.

I suppose the correct answer is to minimize her contact with my family. But this feels counterproductive. It feels like i'm creating a problem instead of solving one.
But oh well.

What is true progress? Examples

True progress is any act that improves the quality of life permanently and has minimal adverse effects.

Every action has a +progress, -progress value. Only net positive progress actions are true progress.

Human advancement is any net positive change that makes some people consider themselves better off without making anyone else worse off.

Quality of life Factors

• Material living conditions (income, consumption and material conditions)
• Productive or main activity
• Health
• Education
• Leisure and social interactions
• Economic and physical safety
• Governance and basic rights
• Natural and living environment
• Overall experience of life

https://web.stanford.edu/~moore/Chapter1.pdf

Examples: Controlling Fire, The Wheel, Water treatment systems, Sanitation & Hygiene, Medication,The Guillotine

Examples of false progress: Rewarding effort instead of results, Upcycling, destruction of resources, marketing

I hate it when my wife - Comments on how "successful" her friends are

Today, my wife passed some comments about all of her other friends moving into their new houses.
"Friend 1is moving in her new big house, and friend 2 is moving into their new house. Sigh."

A previous me would have commented on this by saying something along the lines of "Good for them"
But that would have led to a "discussion" about our current situation (we have a regular house, nothing fancy, needs work) and would have eventually led to a fight because i feel like she's criticizing me, and i feel like a failure because i couldn't provide a big fancy house like all her friends.

Now, every article online says all this fancy stuff about "don't let people treat you like that".
All the religious junk says "don't covet thy neighbour's belongings"
But the reality of life is, you're stuck to your wife, and she will make you feel like shit whenever she feels like she's losing the status race among her peers.

So now i know that the correct action is to say absolutely nothing, and pretend you didn't hear it. Because the reality is, she wasn't actually saying it to me, she was saying it to herself. I understand now that there is no logic to their comments, and that they really are just verbal triggers that happen as a result of some emotional imbalance at that point in time due to some random social media post.

Afterwards, they like to say things like "i meant to say that to get on your nerves"
It's all bullshit. They don't actually think about what they're saying, or have any ulterior motives. Everything that falls out of their mouths is a symptom of some emotional imbalance at the time. It's like permanent tourette syndrome.

So don't get caught by the trap of even validating what they're saying as something real.

Men are brought up to know that they are only as good as their word, and when you say things, you mean them. Women are never taught this. for women, words are just ways of expressing what's going on in their heads, and are not things to be held to. Unless you're a man.

When you feel like you can't do anything right...

Your brain believes what you tell it.
Each thought about being worthless is another brick in that tower of worthlessness you're building.

The important thing to remember is to identify the source of the thought.
What can i learn from this?

And to remember that this is a fleeting moment, and it will pass.
Do not act, or make any decisions while you are in this state.

Eat, drink, have a bath, go to sleep.

Recall what you have learnt from the experience.
Find somewhere quiet.Think positive thoughts to balance out the negative.
Say them out loud.
Breathe and repeat.
http://aimhappy.com/6-mantras-for-positive-thinking/

1. This thought is a choice (Spirit)
1. You attract what you put out. If we want to feel an abundant return of good energy, we must get into the space, and the willingness, to give good energy first. Give happiness away and it is yours to keep. Think positive thoughts and you will see more to be positive about.
2. Happiness is here (Heart)
1. Lasting happiness is unconditional, and not dependant on anything outside of ourselves
2. Our default state is happy. We allow external factors to suppress our inherent happiness
3. Whatever feeling washes over you, let it happen. Do not resist. Surrender to your sadness or anger or whatever negative emotion is trying to come to the surface, just know you don’t need to wallow there forever. It doesn’t define you, but it will guide you.
3. Learn by doing (Hands)
1. When you try an experiment, any outcome is considered a success. There’s no criticism with an experiment because you don’t need a victory; you just need an answer
4. This too shall pass (Feet)
1. Continue moving
2. Everything changes, and whatever you’re experiencing in this moment will not last forever. Forms are temporary. No negative emotion or situation is permanent, and this realization creates space to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
3. What is not manifested will eventually return to the un-manifested state from which it came.
4. Acting on negativity manifests it, and makes it permanent. Never act in a negative state of mind. Walk away.
5. There's enough for everyone (Core)
1. There is enough of everything—enough money, enough time, enough love, enough praise, enough happiness, enough sadness, enough of everything that we need.
6. Be easy (Mind)
1. Focus on one thing at a time and infuse each moment with your attention, presence, and gratitude.
2. This mantra is also a reminder to be easy on yourself. Trust your inner wisdom to guide you to where you need to be, but keep the process of getting there simple. Don’t over-analyze everything. Keep it easy. Take it easy. Be easy.