Today, my wife passed some comments about all of her other friends moving into their new houses.
"Friend 1is moving in her new big house, and friend 2 is moving into their new house. Sigh."
A previous me would have commented on this by saying something along the lines of "Good for them"
But that would have led to a "discussion" about our current situation (we have a regular house, nothing fancy, needs work) and would have eventually led to a fight because i feel like she's criticizing me, and i feel like a failure because i couldn't provide a big fancy house like all her friends.
Now, every article online says all this fancy stuff about "don't let people treat you like that".
All the religious junk says "don't covet thy neighbour's belongings"
But the reality of life is, you're stuck to your wife, and she will make you feel like shit whenever she feels like she's losing the status race among her peers.
So now i know that the correct action is to say absolutely nothing, and pretend you didn't hear it. Because the reality is, she wasn't actually saying it to me, she was saying it to herself. I understand now that there is no logic to their comments, and that they really are just verbal triggers that happen as a result of some emotional imbalance at that point in time due to some random social media post.
Afterwards, they like to say things like "i meant to say that to get on your nerves"
It's all bullshit. They don't actually think about what they're saying, or have any ulterior motives. Everything that falls out of their mouths is a symptom of some emotional imbalance at the time. It's like permanent tourette syndrome.
So don't get caught by the trap of even validating what they're saying as something real.
Men are brought up to know that they are only as good as their word, and when you say things, you mean them. Women are never taught this. for women, words are just ways of expressing what's going on in their heads, and are not things to be held to. Unless you're a man.
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