Stupid Fights

Don't warm up that chicken

Don't give him the toothbrush first

What do i want to do with my life?

The most honest, illogical, heartfelt answer i can come up with

I Want to save the world.
I Want to be a hero.


I have always wanted it, since i was a child. I felt that internal need to sacrifice myself for the good of earth and the planet. It was never about me.
People like to use cliche phrases like "Lack of motivation", "Low self-esteem"
I've always felt that they just didn't get it. I am motivated. I am totally comfortable with myself.
You just don't understand what you're seeing, and you're placing me into the closest mental container you have for people like me.

Why i am getting divorced.

• I am not happy
• I no longer receive the most basic actions of respect, diligence, peace, or positivity
• I am being treated unfairly
• I do more than my share, and it goes unnoticed, and at the same time is criticized
• I no longer have any motivation or ambition to improve anything for anyone
• Did i contribute to this situation?
• Yes i did
• I am just as responsible for this outcome as my wife
• I did not care enough to to anything about the situation, because deep down, i was never happy
• I chose to ignore the facts, and believe that i could "live with her shortcomings"
• That was my mistake
• Why does it all go wrong?
• Being boyfriend/girlfriend is different from being husband/wife
• One relationship ends, the other begins. No matter how long you have been together, you do not know what this person will be like when they are married (unless they have been married before)
• Being Mother/Father is different from being Husband/Wife
• One relationship ends, the other begins. No matter how long you have been together, you do not know what this person will be like when they have children (unless they have had children before)
• More children makes it harder
• Meddling parents makes it harder
• There is a fine line between being helpful and supportive, and being meddlesome
• Parents have to learn this on their own
• Lack of money makes it harder
• Love is not enough
• Honesty is not the best policy
• You need to learn how to tell people exactly what they want to hear, and not the truth
• Truth leads to unhappiness and resentment
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• What have i learned?
• Find someone who knows the value of time, money, respect
• Find someone who is constructive
• Find someone with strong breeding and good genes, with no mental illness, genetic disorders or learning disabilities in the family (These things matter when the children show up)
• Culture, Religion, Class, Race ALL MATTER
• Love is not enough
• How can i predict the future?
• Look at her mother, she will be exactly like her
• Look at her father, you will be just as happy as he is, if you are exactly like him
• Look at their home, your home will look the exact same way
• Look at how they treat each other, you will be treated the same way

The most hurtful things ever said to me by my wife

I don't think she realizes the negative effects that these statements have on the way i see her, and our relationship.
Trying to "discuss" these things just leads to shouting, and it eventually happens again anyway.

• She asks "Are you finished eating?" I reply "Not Yet" She says "I was talking to the children, I don't care if you eat"
• Whenever she has to do anything, she begins her sentences with  "Let your worthless wife do..." (Is she actually worthless? she thinks so. If i say anything in response, it turns into a fight)
• "I'm going to give the box of juice to my sister, should  i pay you for it?"
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My Bread in a bag for kids

https://joyfulhomemaking.com/2016/12/kid-friendly-bread-bag-mini-loaves.html

https://www.delish.com/cooking/recipe-ideas/recipes/a54346/bread-in-a-bag-recipe/

My Pasta

• Fill pot with enough water to cover pasta
• Tablespoon of salt
• bring water to rolling boil
• Angel pasta - 4 mins
• Stir to prevent sticking
• pour into colander, drain
• salt, pepper, olive oil, mix

I hate it when my wife - Makes me feel bad about my family

Our families do things differently.
But my wife makes it a point to harp on any minor issue that comes up with my family.
I do not do this to her. Her defense is that her family does not ask for the same things, or treat me the same way, but this is because i do not have a close relationship with her family. None of her family members would start a conversation with me.
My family on the other hand has tried to include my wife, and speak to her, but she sees this as annoying, and would rather just be left alone.

If any of them does something, and she does not approve, she makes all of these comments about them that i have to just sit and endure. If i make any motion to say anything in their defense, it turns into a large fight, with her basically giving the ultimatum to choose between her or them, and decide who has priority.

I suppose the correct answer is to minimize her contact with my family. But this feels counterproductive. It feels like i'm creating a problem instead of solving one.
But oh well.