Failures

List of things i've been yelled at for

Put glaze on ham too early. Did not follow instructions. No idea why.

Sources of Anger - Frustration Bricks. Walls of Anger.

Frustration occurs whenever an expectation is not met. This is the equivalent of a single brick.

Repeated Frustration becomes Anger. This is the culmination of frustration into a perceived wall.

Anger is the mechanism your brain uses to force yourself into a state that allows you to deal with a situation that you were unable to deal with previously.
It's a survival mechanism.
Nothing more than a hammer meant to break that wall.

Your brain has perceived a virtual wall, and your brain is using desperate tools to get over it.
The correct course of action is to calm down, examine the wall and identify the following

• Can i walk around, or otherwise ignore this wall?
• Is this wall real?
• What is the root cause?
• Why is this wall a problem?
• Are others placing frustration bricks, or am i placing them myself?
• Am i building this wall for a reason?
• If i knock down this wall, will it have other consequences?
• Not all walls are bad. They may be inconvenient, and frustrating, but they may be necessary. 
• Don't go knocking down walls if they're holding up your roof.
• This wall may be preventing other walls from forming
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Situations

• XMAS 2017. Supposed to be by my mother for 2pm for our family get-together.She knows we have to leave early to go to church my 6pm. I got the kids ready and were waiting by 1pm. It is now 3pm. All other family is already there and have called to find out where we are. 
• This is not the first time this has happened. In fact, this has happened EVERY SINGLE TIME we have to do something. She is always at least 1 hour late. If i push or try to get her to speed up, it ends up in a fight.
• This makes me angry.

Simple Worm/Slug/Snail Farm / Compost Bin

Worms are great, but in our garden, there are many slugs and snails as well that do an equally good job of breaking down plant material.

My simple compost bin began as a plastic Shipping barrel (HDPE 77 gallon plastic drum), and some bricks to keep it above ground level

• Drill a bunch of 1/4-inch holes in the bottom of the barrel, about 1-inch apart
• You now have a compost bin
• Find a shady corner of your garden over SOIL where you can easily hide the compost bin, such as behind a tree, or a wall of potted plants, or close to your water tank so it looks like part of the plumbing
• Place the bricks down in an upside down U shape so the opening faces you
• Place the compost bin on the bricks, with the open side on top
• Layer some compost material and soil in the bin
• Throw any random worms / slugs / snails into the bin to help things get started
• If you leave the top open, it allows air movement, sunlight and birds to get in
• You can always use the aluminum cover of the shipping barrel or build a wooden cover for it if you wish
• Cut up your compost material and throw it in the top
• Water it every so often just to keep things moist
• Any excess water will drain from the bottom anyway and nourish the soil beneath the barrel
• Droppings, castings, and compost material will periodically fall through the holes on the bottom
• It usually takes about a month to cycle material
• Use a shovel and periodically clear/collect the stuff that falls out of the bin underneath

What should i do with my life? The meaning of life.

• Short Answers
• Atheist/Nihilist answer - Be Happy
• General Religious answer - Make Others Happy
• Buddhist Answer - Reduce Suffering in self and others
• Scientific view - Do whatever you want, none of it matters anyway

• Long Answers
• Go through Maslow's hierarchy 
• Survival (No Pain, hunger)
• Safety (No Danger)
• Love (Feel loved and accepted)
• Esteem (Respect of others)
• Self-Actualization (Be all the me i can be)
• Transcendence (Accepting you are only a small part of everything. Seeing the bigger picture from outside yourself.)
• Come full circle to realize nothing matters in the bigger picture and there is no purpose
• Accept Nihilism - Do whatever makes you happy
• Recognize there are consequences, making this a hollow statement
• Accept Strategic Nihilism - Attain the Freedom to do whatever makes you happy
• Freedom from responsibility
• Freedom from consequence
• This however is in direct conflict with Maslow's hierarchy, as it affects Survival and safety for others
• Immediately realize that religions are constructs to prevent people from coming to this same conclusion, which would result in mass chaos if everyone had no sense of responsibility or consequence
• Accept Strategic Responsible Nihilism - Attain the freedom to do the things that make you happy that do not have an adverse effect on any other non-hostile lifeform's hierarchy of needs. We should only be responsible for lifeforms that do not directly conflict with our own hierarchy of needs.
• What next?
• Clearly identify the things that make you happy
• Clearly identify hostile, and non-hostile lifeforms
• Clearly identify which things will not have negative impacts on non-hostile lifeforms
• For anything that will have negative impacts, Research, Discover, Invent, Build appropriate infrastructure to remove those negative impacts until none exist
• For everything else, do it as often as you wish
• My Answers
• Get a piece of land
• Build a communal farming and food space where we can all learn to be self sufficient
• All things can be categorized as Friend, Neutral or Foe, and should be treated accordingly
• Friend - Benefits outweigh costs. We like them, no reasons necessary.
• Neutral - Does not pose a threat. Benefits equal costs. No particular feelings.
• Foe - Poses a threat. Costs exceed Benefits. Do not like them, no reasons. necessary.
• Survival, Health and Safety of Friend is priority
• No Harm should be done to Neutral. Equivalent exchange rules should be followed.
• Foes should be avoided where possible, and eradicated otherwise

Trinidad Recycling Locations - Recycle Batteries, Aluminium, Tetra Pak, Glass and Plastic

• Trinidad does not have public collection for recycling of
• Aluminium Cans

Official websites - these are usually out of date, and bins come and go without notice

• Carib Glass - Glass
• http://www.meppublishers.com/content/index.php/caribs-glass-recycling-bins/#axzz4V5JKY1ID
• ICare - Plastic, Glass, Tetra Pak
• https://www.facebook.com/ICARETTproject/timeline
• http://www.looptt.com/content/icare-rolls-out-recycling-collection-centres
• Plastikeep - Plastic, Tetra Pak
• http://www.plastikeep.com/locations.html
• Green Warriors - Batteries
• https://www.facebook.com/limers/posts/1184130791638174

• Diego Martin
• All Massy Stores - Plastikeep Recycling bins
• Maple Leaf - Glass Recycling bin (small hole one bottle at a time)
• Victoria Gardens - Carib Glass Recycling Bin (large hole, can accept cases)
• Tru Valu - Glass Recycling bin (small hole one bottle at a time)
• Diego Martin Community Center - Used to have a Plastikeep bin, was removed because people kept throwing rubbish into it

On Wife and Marriage - Fallacies and Analogies

• A Marriage is NOT two people becoming one entity - in a single entity, the left hand does not need to coerce the right hand
• A Marriage is NOT a Team - a team has a captain or a coach
• A Marriage is NOT about equality - men and women are different. Husbands and wives are different
• Wives are NOT logical when interacting with husbands - they may be capable of being logical in other things, but the rules change when dealing with husbands
• Friends, Girlfriends and Wives are all DIFFERENT and cannot be treated the same. However, they all share the same basic "Woman" needs

• WHAT ARE WOMEN LIKE?
• Women think like flowers
• Their highest priority is to think they look good
• Happiest when they think they are attracting as many visitors as possible
• Happiest when they think they outshine all other flowers

• WHAT ARE WIVES LIKE?
• Wives are like parasites
• They live off your resources for as long as they can, then produce children, leaving behind your dead husk.

• WHAT ARE MOTHERS LIKE?
• Mothers only think about their children
• Nothing else.

• WHAT IS MARRIAGE LIKE?
• Marriage is like catching a fish (The fish is your wife)
• You can eat the fish and stop fishing (What most men want, and do)
• Or you can put the fish back and keep catching it over and over again (What women want you to do)

Hard Lines - Rules for happiness in each area in order of importance

• Self
• Understand what makes YOU truly happy
• Do it in balance with all others happiness
• Spouse
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• Children
• Be there
• Play with them
• Parents
• Business
• Friends
• Exes
• Minimal contact. Only where necessary.
• Will damage all other relationships
• Strangers
• Treat others as you wish to be treated
• Enemies
• Cut all contact
• Avoid where possible
• Threats
• Take legal action
• Call police immediately
• Be prepared to kill when confronted